I remember forgiveness being so much easier than this. The pain is so much I can hardly stand it. My heart aches. My back hunches, and my neck is sore with tension.
Why has forgiveness gotten harder as I have gotten older?
I feel as if I give and give and give, and then, after I've given until I have nothing but my human body left, she takes that too. I want to scream, "JUST GET OUT OF MY LIFE!". I hate who I am and what I become when she does this to me. I want forgiveness to be easy, desperately I do, and most of the time it is, but with her, its so indescribably hard! I wonder how she could possibly be human. For nearly 18 years I have loved her with nearly every beat of my heart. When we were 8 and she was sent to Two East I was petrified for her. My heart . . . i cannot describe it. I feel weak just thinking about it. When she was taken again when we 14 half of me went with her. My love for her astounds me. My eyes are overflowing just thinking of her. For 10 months we wrote each other; she came home every 5 weeks and each time broke my heart. She wasn't doing any better. That place didn't help her at all. I could only think of her freezing feet in the tents on November nights, her toes curled. Oh, how I would have wrapped my warm blankets around her, and scratched her back. When she returned home and then left for days at a time, she took my heart then, too. Wild parties. Smoke spilling out from under her door. Powder residue on tables, and on credit cards. Bottles. Baggies. Missing money. My heart there too.
I love loving others. It blesses me in a way I can only let my Father describe. But at times it so burns from pain, so blinds me, so intoxicates me, that I feel I can hardly go on. I want her to know how much I love her, I believe in her, care for her. I want her to know how my heart screams to her. What is most painful, above any physical pain I have ever encountered, is knowing she knows the capacity of my love for her and in return, indifference. A pain words themselves, nor screams, or cries, can begin to communicate.
Everyone knows the words of St. Francisis of Assisi, when he says "Lord, make me an instrument of your peace where there is hatred, let me show love, where there is envy, pardon, where there is doubt, faith, where there is despair, hope, where there is darkness light, where there is sadness, joy, o divine master let me not so much seek to be consoled as to console, understood as to understand,
to be loved as to love." How my soul so longs to be loved back, but isn't. I believe that is the hardest thing about forgiving her: forgiving her when I know she will only just go and do it again, and doesn't care how that effects me, and more importantly doesn't reciprocate love, affection, or gratitude. I have found that pride is an enormous participant. No matter how many times I feel walked over, pushed around, weakened, or left behind, I must remember that the only one with a love so perfect, so divine, to forgive
me of my sin has, and does, and loves me so intensely, my love for Kate is barely a mark on the pages of the greatest love story every told. My love is far from perfect, and each time I fall from the blows, I get back up with a stronger love, and a desire to love her more and more.
I desire to show forgiveness as a child, unblemished, unscarred, and unburned. I desire to love more that I desire to be loved.
Playing on my Ipod:
1.) This Time Around
Helen Stellar
2.) Tasting Forgiveness
Robbie Seay Band
3.)Hands of Time
Groove Armada
4.)Hallelujah
Jeff Buckley
5.)Held
Natalie Grant
6.)Your Grace is Sufficient
Shane & Shane
7.)The Only Living Boy In New York
Simon And Garfunkel
8.)Five Iron Frenzy
SuckerPunch
9.)The Beautiful Letdown
Switchfoot
10.)One
U2
11.)Castles In The Sky
Ian Van Dahl
12.)Fireproof
Pillar
13.) One Pure and Holy Passion
Passion Worship Band
14.)God Bless America
Larry Wayne Morbitt
15.)Sea of Faces
Kutless